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The arrival of a baby brings many changes to a family, each person will have their own feelings and reactions to the baby. Talking about these feelings can bring the family closer together. As with any time of major change there are stresses involved and it is important that you allow time to adjust to your new family roles.
Becoming a dad is an amazing, life changing, and, let’s face it, a physically and emotionally demanding event, from day one.
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Broken sleep and the demands of parenting can put a strain on your relationship. It is important to talk about concerns and problems. At times you may have differing opinions and ideas on parenting; these may have come from your own childhoods. Discussing your feelings and ideas may help.
There may be times when you will want a change of scene and even to get away from your own baby for a few hours. It can help to occasionally have some time for yourself and for you and your partner to be together, leaving your baby with a trusted adult (or teenager over 14 years old).
Coping with a new baby and a toddler or older child can be very demanding. For a toddler accustomed to undivided attention, discovering how much time must be devoted to a small baby’s needs can be an unpleasant shock. It is quite common for an older child to regress temporarily to an earlier stage, in an attempt to regain attention. This situation calls for patience, love and as much time as you can manage.
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If you are tired after a wakeful night with the baby, facing a busy toddler in the morning can be hard. Remember you are not superhuman. Sometimes, the baby or toddler has to wait.
It’s only for a short time!
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